You've Had Sex, But Have You Had #AfterSex?
My first reaction to the #AfterSex selfie hashtag on Instagram was a resounding “Really, guys? Really?” Between selfies at funerals and the millions of godamn pictures people are taking in the bathroom, a softly-lit, tousled pic right after doing the deed was basically the last thing I thought the world needed.
And then … I kept browsing.
While very few of these pics are #nofilter (this is Instagram, after all), you can only be so composed right after a good romp. Hair gets mussed, make-up rubbed off, and you’re definitely not posing with one arm on your hip (my least favorite pose ever). Most of the pictures are couples lying in bed together, that post-coital glow doing more for their complexion than a Valencia filter ever could.
On top of the adorableness that is the posed-but-not-posed aspect of #AfterSex hashtag, the sheer diversity of couples using it is heartening. Here we see gay couples, interracial couples, tattooed couples, couples that probably rock matching khaki shorts when dressed. Social media generally doesn't expose this level of diversity on the regular.
On top of the adorableness that is the posed-but-not-posed aspect of #AfterSex hashtag, the sheer diversity of couples using it is heartening. Here we see gay couples, interracial couples, tattooed couples, couples that probably rock matching khaki shorts when dressed.
And then, of course, there are the posts of dudes holding up their right hand, washing up, or offering just a hand detached from a body all together. These are the cheeky shots, from people who are like, “Yeah, I’m doing it! With my HAND!” To them I say: you go for it, boo. Celebrate that self-love!
One request: There is a distinct lack of ladies snapping selfies after rubbing one out. Girls, I know you’re out there making as much of a commotion as these boys are, and #AfterSex would be so much better if we had some smiling females on there holding out their hands or favorite battery-powered companion as evidence of the good time they just had solo. Female masturbation is still so taboo, so why not use this cultural phenomenon to normalize it?
So, yeah, I’ve been pretty vocal about my dislike of selfies and the damage I think they’re doing, and I don’t think that constantly photographing ourselves is doing anyone any favors. But this #AfterSex hashtag is normalizing sex in a whole new way, and I have to admit: I dig it.